The more one tries to steady one's life, the more stressful the life gets. Has this something to do with law of nature, which is described as a phenomenon that keeps throwing unexpected things and never lets anyone settle, because life in itself means change. Change, which happens every moment and is never ending. Now, if it is so well known that law of nature would not let anyone settle then why do anyone even think of steadying life?
Everyone expects that they can create an ideal condition, which would make them comfortable, bring solace, weed out all the worries and bring peace and tranquility. All the fight and struggle to meet the materialistic greed is in pursuit to achieve that steadiness. Having 'this' would steady my life, is what is presumed. Now, what does steady mean? Steadying life perhaps describes a situation where an arrangement is acquired, which ensures recurrent supply to fulfill the demands of life. Availability of 'Roti, Kapda aur makaan' is the first and foremost desire of everyone. Certainly, as per Maslow's theory of motivation they are the first level of motivation, considered to be the basic instincts. If sex is added to this three aforesaid need or desire, then that completes list of primary motivational needs. But, who defines what extent of availability would construe the fulfillment of these desires/need. The core need remains the same, for everyone, but with growth comes the shift in content and quality. Shift can be seen from basic food to exotic cuisines, normal clothes to branded, with need based shelter to luxurious setting, and from one partner to getting adventurous. And, beyond this comes the aspiration to achieve similar settings for family members, which is an impossibility. Impossible because they are all external items. Body and mind of different persons may react differently to one situation, so it is being idealistically impossible. As desires are never stagnant, so is life. If one thing is provided there is creation of another seductive product, for which one would strive to acquire. Then how can one strive for steadiness.
Does steadiness exist? Steadiness does exist and is a possibility. It is possible once we stop trying to control the external factors or be dependent on them. Steadiness is a state of mind, and mind is ones own property. Rather than controlling outside elements it is better to control owns possession, 'the mind'. Control the impact of external things on you than trying to control the external things. Certainly, it is better said than done, but there lies the solution. As time never stops, so does change. How to cope that every moment change mentally without letting it bother your spirit is an answer. Our heritage points out to 'meditation', as the best means to control mind. No doubt that 'meditation' calms and gives lot of leverage to a person to control mind, but how many of us are able to meditate. And even if we do, how many of us are able to concentrate enough to control mind. Sitting in a position of meditation is not a solution. Forgiveness, justifying others act, believing in the fact that what we consider to be a lifetime decision now may have no relevance with passing of time, every other person who is acting in a weird way is actually sucked in the same vortex of need and desire, what we get from external world is a consequence of our position in job or materialistic competitive world and above all, the importance we lay to ourselves is immaterial as we have negligible presence in this huge galaxy of things, are some of the possible ways to calm down and prevent oneself from getting affected by external actions. Those tricks are possible prevention mechanism, which could thwart the impact of external factors on thought process. But, again realization and practice of these tricks requires some type of maturity. Maturity again has nothing to do with academic profile. It is the skill of inward looking, inward exploration and inward realization. The more one internalizes the inner strength the less one will get perturbed by outward churning. Bring in inner calmness and that will direct the 'mind' to get calmer. Eventually, one's life will steady.
So, should we not try to steady our life....
Everyone expects that they can create an ideal condition, which would make them comfortable, bring solace, weed out all the worries and bring peace and tranquility. All the fight and struggle to meet the materialistic greed is in pursuit to achieve that steadiness. Having 'this' would steady my life, is what is presumed. Now, what does steady mean? Steadying life perhaps describes a situation where an arrangement is acquired, which ensures recurrent supply to fulfill the demands of life. Availability of 'Roti, Kapda aur makaan' is the first and foremost desire of everyone. Certainly, as per Maslow's theory of motivation they are the first level of motivation, considered to be the basic instincts. If sex is added to this three aforesaid need or desire, then that completes list of primary motivational needs. But, who defines what extent of availability would construe the fulfillment of these desires/need. The core need remains the same, for everyone, but with growth comes the shift in content and quality. Shift can be seen from basic food to exotic cuisines, normal clothes to branded, with need based shelter to luxurious setting, and from one partner to getting adventurous. And, beyond this comes the aspiration to achieve similar settings for family members, which is an impossibility. Impossible because they are all external items. Body and mind of different persons may react differently to one situation, so it is being idealistically impossible. As desires are never stagnant, so is life. If one thing is provided there is creation of another seductive product, for which one would strive to acquire. Then how can one strive for steadiness.
Does steadiness exist? Steadiness does exist and is a possibility. It is possible once we stop trying to control the external factors or be dependent on them. Steadiness is a state of mind, and mind is ones own property. Rather than controlling outside elements it is better to control owns possession, 'the mind'. Control the impact of external things on you than trying to control the external things. Certainly, it is better said than done, but there lies the solution. As time never stops, so does change. How to cope that every moment change mentally without letting it bother your spirit is an answer. Our heritage points out to 'meditation', as the best means to control mind. No doubt that 'meditation' calms and gives lot of leverage to a person to control mind, but how many of us are able to meditate. And even if we do, how many of us are able to concentrate enough to control mind. Sitting in a position of meditation is not a solution. Forgiveness, justifying others act, believing in the fact that what we consider to be a lifetime decision now may have no relevance with passing of time, every other person who is acting in a weird way is actually sucked in the same vortex of need and desire, what we get from external world is a consequence of our position in job or materialistic competitive world and above all, the importance we lay to ourselves is immaterial as we have negligible presence in this huge galaxy of things, are some of the possible ways to calm down and prevent oneself from getting affected by external actions. Those tricks are possible prevention mechanism, which could thwart the impact of external factors on thought process. But, again realization and practice of these tricks requires some type of maturity. Maturity again has nothing to do with academic profile. It is the skill of inward looking, inward exploration and inward realization. The more one internalizes the inner strength the less one will get perturbed by outward churning. Bring in inner calmness and that will direct the 'mind' to get calmer. Eventually, one's life will steady.
So, should we not try to steady our life....
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